“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” –Carlos Castaneda
I don’t know about you, but I’d rather work on making myself strong. We’ve all been around miserable people; they’re no fun at all! Strong people, on the other hand, can motivate us to keep going when we want to crawl under the nearest rock and never come out. Strong people understand the importance of letting go. While holding on to anger, fear, or resentment sounds strong, it actually takes a lot more strength to let go. Why is letting go so important? Letting go is good for your health. Holding on creates stress in your body, creating inflammation and future disease. Is whatever you can’t let go of worth your happiness or health? I don’t think so.
“Nothing needs to be fixed. Everything is unfolding perfectly. So when you stand in your now accepting that all is well, then from that vibration, you become surrounded by more and more evidence that all is well. But when you’re convinced that things are broken, that there is pollution, or that things have gone wrong, or that the government is doing conspiracies…then what happens is you get caught up in that vibration, and you begin to manifest that kind of stuff, and then you say, “See, I told you that things were going wrong.” –Abraham-Hicks
Letting go is good for your life. The Naked Truth about LETTING GO: If you are holding on with all your strength, you won’t be able to let go. If you can’t let go, there is no room to grasp the opportunities that come your way. Choose to make yourself strong, not miserable. The amount of work is the same. What are you waiting for? Start letting go! Grab the opportunistic bull by the horn!
Thank you for creating an account so you can leave comments on my blog. I am sorry you are struggling with the concept of letting go as it relates to your father. I understand you are interested in the process of letting go. Just as in life, there isn’t one process that will magically lead to letting go. What works for one, may not work for another. In your case, I think confiding in someone trained in how to deal with what happened with your father, would help you immensely. I hope you can find peace knowing that you did the best you could – and, that’s all any of us can do.
You are most welcome. I, too, struggle with letting go – especially letting go…permanently, as in never again thinking of whatever was let go. You brought up an excellent point – faith is an important part of letting go; faith in whatever you believe; we must believe in ourselves and that we can find the path to letting go, for our health and sanity.
A Love Note for you…
It’s hard to feel peaceful if you dwell on why you should be angry. If you want to feel free, let the story go.
It’s hard to feel good if you feel like you deserve to feel bad. If you want to feel happy, let your self-judgment go.
It’s hard to feel satisfied if you feel like everything needs to be perfect. If you want to feel content, let your perfectionism go.
It’s hard to feel balanced if you feel you need to be busy. If you want to feel centered, let the pressure go.
It’s hard to feel relaxed if you’re clinging to fear or anxiety. If you want to feel at ease, let your worries go.
It’s hard to feel loved if you mistrust everyone else. If you want to feel connected, let your suspicions go.
It’s human nature to cling to things that don’t serve us from time to time. But every moment is a new opportunity to let go and be free. Take a deep breath and let go.
I am honored that you read my blog post on your lunch break. Like you, I am still on my journey towards finding the positive road to peace and tranquility. It’s great that you are ready to let go…willingness is the first step!
Well said, Florence. What do you do that helps you let go? Does writing help you? We (you, me, and Rudy) all happen to be authors & poets. I definitely feel writing has helped me in so many ways.
I can relate. I often remind myself of the positive things I do throughout the day, even if all I do is exercise. A change in perspective really does help.
One thought: it’s virtually impossible to hold on to anger, fear, etc. AND to feel gratitude at the same time. Try it. Give thanks. Yep, in all things give thanks. Find 3 things everyday that you are grateful for. Journal them: whether you write them down, type them up, or create an electronic photo album, it doesn’t matter how you do it, just claim the joys and graces and blessings that make up your life. And soon, very soon, you’ll find yourself letting go of the painful things and finding your strength in living a gratitude filled life!
Thanks for stopping by! You are right – it is impossible to hold on to anger, fear, etc. and to feel gratitude in the same moment. How did you know my next blog post will be about gratitude? Wow…so cool! 🙂
I think most of us are hanging on to something or someone in our lives that is keeping us from moving forward. This topic gives me a lot to think about. I wish letting go was a lot easier. I think it would be beneficial if we can look back on the times in our lives when we did let go and realize that in time we recovered and moved on and felt happy and whole again. We must have faith in ourselves and believe there will be bumps and obstacles along the way of life and trust that we will grow and thrive again. No one said it was going to be easy. Hold your head up and attack life one moment and one day at a time.
Well said, John. 🙂
Thank you for visiting my blog! You hit the nail on the head – we can’t help people who refuse to help themselves. It’s frustrating, but true…
Another nice piece very informative it makes me reflect on simple things that I cling on to. Food for thought, thanks nicole 🙂
Thanks for your comment, Rudy. I’m glad you enjoyed this article. What do you want to let go of?
Very inspiring post. Thanks for sharing.
You’re welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed my article. Thanks for visiting my blog. 🙂