LETTING GO: The Naked Truth

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” –Carlos Castaneda

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather work on making myself strong. We’ve all been around miserable people; they’re no fun at all! Strong people, on the other hand, can motivate us to keep going when we want to crawl under the nearest rock and never come out. Strong people understand the importance of letting go. While holding on to anger, fear, or resentment sounds strong, it actually takes a lot more strength to let go. Why is letting go so important? Letting go is good for your health. Holding on creates stress in your body, creating inflammation and future disease. Is whatever you can’t let go of worth your happiness or health? I don’t think so.

“Nothing needs to be fixed. Everything is unfolding perfectly. So when you stand in your now accepting that all is well, then from that vibration, you become surrounded by more and more evidence that all is well. But when you’re convinced that things are broken, that there is pollution, or that things have gone wrong, or that the government is doing conspiracies…then what happens is you get caught up in that vibration, and you begin to manifest that kind of stuff, and then you say, “See, I told you that things were going wrong.” –Abraham-Hicks

Letting go is good for your life. The Naked Truth about LETTING GO: If you are holding on with all your strength, you won’t be able to let go. If you can’t let go, there is no room to grasp the opportunities that come your way. Choose to make yourself strong, not miserable. The amount of work is the same. What are you waiting for? Start letting go! Grab the opportunistic bull by the horn!

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  • Hi Doug,

    Thank you for creating an account so you can leave comments on my blog. I am sorry you are struggling with the concept of letting go as it relates to your father. I understand you are interested in the process of letting go. Just as in life, there isn’t one process that will magically lead to letting go. What works for one, may not work for another. In your case, I think confiding in someone trained in how to deal with what happened with your father, would help you immensely. I hope you can find peace knowing that you did the best you could – and, that’s all any of us can do.

  • Nicole,

    Thank you for this much needed topic… I agree with Doug, it is a difficult thing to let go. Difficult to let go of a lot of things. Especially, things and memories that are so dear to us. It’s difficult to let go of people we thought were fighting, standing, or in the gap with us. But, as I continue to learn as I grow and get older, I realize that we just can’t keep letting these “distractions” continue to cloud our thoughts, ideas, or our well being. It is very unhealthy. LET IT GO! LIVE LIFE! AND LIVE LIFE THE WAY THE ALMIGHTY GOD HAS CREATED US TO! LEAVE IT TO HIM, HE WILL TAKE CARE OF THE SITUATIONS!

  • Dwayne,

    You are most welcome. I, too, struggle with letting go – especially letting go…permanently, as in never again thinking of whatever was let go. You brought up an excellent point – faith is an important part of letting go; faith in whatever you believe; we must believe in ourselves and that we can find the path to letting go, for our health and sanity.

  • From http://www.yourromanticsoul.com:

    A Love Note for you…

    It’s hard to feel peaceful if you dwell on why you should be angry. If you want to feel free, let the story go.

    It’s hard to feel good if you feel like you deserve to feel bad. If you want to feel happy, let your self-judgment go.

    It’s hard to feel satisfied if you feel like everything needs to be perfect. If you want to feel content, let your perfectionism go.

    It’s hard to feel balanced if you feel you need to be busy. If you want to feel centered, let the pressure go.

    It’s hard to feel relaxed if you’re clinging to fear or anxiety. If you want to feel at ease, let your worries go.

    It’s hard to feel loved if you mistrust everyone else. If you want to feel connected, let your suspicions go.

    It’s human nature to cling to things that don’t serve us from time to time. But every moment is a new opportunity to let go and be free. Take a deep breath and let go.

    • I read this on my lunch break. It was definitely worth the break. I definitely like your initiative to promote a positive mental perspective. I’m still in my journey towards finding the positive road way to peace and tranquility, I accept that in the process I must be willing to let go all things and individuals that are hurdles and set backs in my life. I’m ready 🙂

      • Dear Rudy,

        I am honored that you read my blog post on your lunch break. Like you, I am still on my journey towards finding the positive road to peace and tranquility. It’s great that you are ready to let go…willingness is the first step!

      • Letting go is often a matter of accepting that in life the only thing we truly control is our own behaviour. We have no real control over other people, things, or places. You can stand at the bus stop willing the next bus to be yours, anxiously worrying that if it is not you will be late, panicking what will happen if you arrive late, but you can not make it arrive faster. So best to accept that fact. Save yourself the worry.

        • Well said, Florence. What do you do that helps you let go? Does writing help you? We (you, me, and Rudy) all happen to be authors & poets. I definitely feel writing has helped me in so many ways.

      • Yes I find writing a big help. You can say in a poem things you would not want to say to a person, for fear of hurting them or indeed facing retaliation. I have found that a change in perspective helps. I used to spend sleepless nights stressing over all the things I had not done, I needed to do, or thought I should do. This left a feeling of glum failure. Now I make a point of every night thinking of a list of positive things I have done that day. Even if I have done nothing in particular that day, I will list things like the fact that I got up and got dressed, I fed the cat, I emptied the bins. anything positive.

  • One thought: it’s virtually impossible to hold on to anger, fear, etc. AND to feel gratitude at the same time. Try it. Give thanks. Yep, in all things give thanks. Find 3 things everyday that you are grateful for. Journal them: whether you write them down, type them up, or create an electronic photo album, it doesn’t matter how you do it, just claim the joys and graces and blessings that make up your life. And soon, very soon, you’ll find yourself letting go of the painful things and finding your strength in living a gratitude filled life!

  • Julie,

    Thanks for stopping by! You are right – it is impossible to hold on to anger, fear, etc. and to feel gratitude in the same moment. How did you know my next blog post will be about gratitude? Wow…so cool! 🙂

  • I think most of us are hanging on to something or someone in our lives that is keeping us from moving forward. This topic gives me a lot to think about. I wish letting go was a lot easier. I think it would be beneficial if we can look back on the times in our lives when we did let go and realize that in time we recovered and moved on and felt happy and whole again. We must have faith in ourselves and believe there will be bumps and obstacles along the way of life and trust that we will grow and thrive again. No one said it was going to be easy. Hold your head up and attack life one moment and one day at a time.

  • It’s hard when someone dies and you are left with unresolved issues. You must realise that there is no way to help someone who refuses to help them self. We are sadly placed in the position where self preservation must come first. There is no crime in this. It sounds like you did what you could until the doing took too much out of you. When that happens one must withdraw.

    Here is a poem I wrote about this subject: