It’s easy to wonder what life would be like if we were granted do overs; a chance to re-create memories so they play out the way we want. I often fantasize about such moments. I wonder who I would be, what my life would look like today if I had the chance to do over important moments in my life. Then I am quickly brought back to reality when I realize there is no crystal ball of life, no magic life Jeanie in a bottle. I am reminded that life is a journey; things happen exactly the way they are meant to happen – like it or not. The challenge is learning to enjoy our journey with little reflection on the coulda, shoulda, woulda’s – those infectious thoughts that prevent us from living our best life.
The NAKED TRUTH about life: No matter how hard we try, we can’t go back. We must focus on going forward. When we do, we have the chance to create new moments with the potential to be even more magical than the ones we do over in our minds. I know, it’s tempting to give into the fantasy that the grass is always greener on the other side of life. But there really is no way to know for sure. The only thing we know for sure is the present moment; that is all we are guaranteed in life – one moment at a time. The past moments are gone. If we re-live them at the expense of living in the here and now, we are not living. We are simply remembering days gone by, hoping for their return.
My life is completely different than it was five years ago. I don’t like it. I accept it. Accepting my new normal has prevented me from voluntarily checking in to the nearest psychiatric hospital. When those “Why me?” thoughts creep in, I cling to the belief that God never gives any of us more than we can handle. Apparently, God has a lot of faith in me – certainly a lot more than I have in myself. Now, there’s a do-over worth investigating…
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Tell it like it is sis. I agree with you completely. I believe it is easy to fall into the trap of wondering what my life could have been like IF….
I have decided to accept my life as it is today, to learn from my past mistakes and to look forward to a better tomorrow…one day at a time. What I am trying to do is “do over” my moment to moment thought process and inner dialogue and remain positive even when my life is not as wonderful as I would like it to be. I am also ending toxic relationships that get in the way of my happiness.
Keep writing sis. I appreciate your insight. You are a blessing in my life.
Well said, John. I also have to work on my moment to moment thought process and inner dialogue. Congrats for ending toxic relationships! Life is too short to let people bring you down!
Nicki – you are genius to put so much profound thought in so few words!
This short, succinct article is powerful and I thank you for sharing it. Life IS too short and we do need to channel our inner selves.
You’re welcome! Thank you for your kind words. 🙂
Very insightful post. Here’s what I’ve found, it’s simple and it works. Happiness is a choice. It is not affected by outside circumstances, it blossoms from within. In the face of all that “is” you can choose to love the way it is or make yourself crazy wishing for it to be another way. Choose happiness. When you stand in the present and choose what’s so great possibilities are within your reach.
In clarity and success,
Thank you for your insightful comment. Yes, happiness is a choice and I choose to be happy!!
well said. I believe we LEARN most during the times we don’t like our lives. and usually, these are valuable lessons to help us realize how far we’ve come and how equipped we are to savor the GOOD.
You are so eloquent! I agree that we learn the most during the times we don’t like our lives – I know that has been the case for me.
“Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.”
– Napoleon Hill
Wow, thank you for the nice compliment! saw a great quote from Abraham-Hicks on fb last night. I added it to my most recent blog post LETTING GO: The Naked Truth.
Thank you for your comment. Perhaps I need to do a blog article on acceptance…